I’ve been coaching since 1979. For the record, I have never been overpaid, but I enjoy it.
To survive this long, most of us long-term coaches come up with some principles. Some of mine are as simple as “buy low, sell high,” and most would recognize them:
Little and often over the long haul.
Build the base then build the pyramid.
The first step after a peak is straight down.
One thing that I have found to keep me from going crazy and still provide coaching is a simple thought:
Fix the fixable.
Two things stand in the way of most people: genetics and geography. I have found you can’t fix either.
If you are seven feet tall, there is a good chance you can just stand with your arms wide and make a living in basketball. Olympic lifters and gymnasts tend to blessed with shortness, but probably hate being picked last in volleyball.
You might be able to change your hair color and eye color for a bit, but nature is going to keep insisting on something else.
Geography? If you were born in an area that loves wrestling, you probably know a lot of counters and takedowns. If you were born in a landlocked area, your idea of surfing might not be the same as someone from the big wave areas of Hawaii.
In other words, you can’t change some things. As a coach, embracing this truth will do a lot to keep you sane.
Focus on what you can change. If you want to do well with the ladies, learn to dance. Get your teeth fixed. Get a haircut worthy of your income level. These are all under the heading “Fix the fixable.”
When it comes to your physique, good posture…which is offered for free…is a step in the right direction. Food choices that emphasize leanness is a daily fixable fix.
In the gym, strive to increase your overhead press, your squat and your deadlift. The press will build wide shoulder and the squat and DL will work your buns. According to research…and the movie “Sleepless in Seattle”…buns are the key. Women tend to care less about the biceps and more about the buns.
Fix the fixable.
Dress well, groom well, behave well and stay well. Don’t try to mask two years of carb loading with a tight waistband. Do things right from the beginning. Fix what you can fix.
Don’t focus on things you can’t change. As we say in coaching, “we all wish we coulda/woulda/shoulda.” But, you can’t.
Focus on the things you can change, fix and correct.